actually, its very subjective to parents, whether they wanna use the soft side or the cane, yeah? for me, i boil easily, so it's the cane or THE HAND. i tell you, when lil missy go all whiny & become monster, i don't give face wan, even in public. though embarrassed, but who the heck cares, she is my kid, and if i don't discipline her, who will? correct? i remembered when i was younger, me & my brother always get whack cus we were always fighting day & night, i know it droves my parents crazy! hehe... now i'm getting it... hu hu hu...
my cousin sis is a classic, she would have all sorts of colors, you know those balloon sticks? then when her boys misbehave outside, she will then look them in the face and asked them, which color you want, i let you choose when we get home ok? waaaaah, classic wei! hahahahahaha!
i always try not to show "the hand" or "the cane" but sometimes, it just makes me go nuts when lil missy misbehave. why can't my child be an angel? if she is always obedient & sit still, i would worry then wouldn't i? haha... esh esh... then right after i spank her, i will regret, aiyaaaah! breath in breath out... this will always forever be a debate on child disciplinedo u discipline your kids the "cane" way?
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101% YES- for me. I discipline my kid.
Me.. smack if need to..esp when disrespectful to the parents.
I save the rotan (balloon sticks) for very serious "offences". Most of the time, it's just nagging, scolding and hitting with my hand when too geram!
coincidentally, yesterday on litefm, there was a topic on spanking by a clinical psychologist. he said parents have no right to hit the children. physical punishment is not the answer and children who are spanked often will become overly aggressive towards others :)
hmmmm... i wonder if that clinical psychologist has kids? i wonder how he/she handles their kids? interesting... i was spank since i was young, cus too "monster"... hahaha, i turn out ok, thank God :)
good idea wor...where your cousing sis got the color sticks ah? I wanna buy some too. "Educational" also..at least he will learn what colour is what .
agree with you there. And i wonder what the clinical psychologist kids turn out to be.
I am not taking sides but I do discipline my girl .... but not through spanking. I think it doesn't work for me. I don't feel that I have taught her anything apart from 'your do I hit'. In fact, I feel really bad after that ... hence no spanking for me. Does she turn into a monster? Hahaha .... in fact spank or no spank, she’ll always be this little cute monster to me :P :P
Whether or not your child is an angel, I think it mostly depends on their 'characteristics'. So far, I yet to see kids who are considered active and mischievous will transformed into this sweet little 'angel' as time passes by after years of spanking, do you?? But I do agree that for some kids, spanking does have it’s effect too depends on the characteristic of the child.
But I do save the spanking for serious offenses or time which I think they'll hurt themselves badly if I don't just served as a serious reminder. Hope I do not have to use it any time sooner.
It depends on the kids. Some kids spank also tak takut then no use spanking. I did spank my girl when Gwen was 3 years old or younger but recently No lor coz she is consider well behave now.
I have 2, naughty corner most of the time works. Rotan is for swinging around LOL...But sometimes when it gets out of hand, rotan will sure come into picture. Since they are bigger now, I try to do more reasoning with them, but at stern tone instead of nice nice talk to them, cause if I do that, they will climb on my head liao!!
The clinical psychologist has 2 kids :) He has other ways to handle the kids when they misbehave. I was spanked a lot too when I was a kid...and I turn our ok BUT I still remember when that happened and how I hated my mom for doing it. I also used the cane on Ashley when she was younger and regretted it. I no longer do that anymore because I don't want Ashley to hate me :) There are other ways to punish her when she's not listening or misbehave. This is just my opinion of course :)
I used to hate my dad for giving me the rotan, but I understand now why he did that, cus I'm drove him nuts! Hahahahha.. But I don't hate them now, every parents has their ways of teaching their kids. Don't misunderstood abuse & spanking, cus its different totally. As for now, I don't spank krys that much now cus I can reason with her, as she grows older. But if she crosses the border, I definitely will show her "the hand" :) I think I have to give her a sibling soon. Ahaks!
Now the cane mainly used for scaring them. Will whack on legs if still dun listen. But cannot used too frequently coz it'll lose it's effect.
Oh yes, i spank with cane too if really really beh tahan, but as what slavemom said cannot used too frequently coz it'll lose it's effect.... but so far, they still afraid of cane !!!
SOmetime the kids really misbehave, spanks is the only way !! OF COS FOLLOW WITH EXPLAIN LATER ON .
LOL, like your cousin sister's humour, choose the colour you like... interesting!!!
Well, eventhough I didn't encourage spanking, but at time I can also get heated up and 'wallop' them with my hands... then I'll cuddle them again(my soft spot, aik!) and explain to them why I was so angry and prompted them to cheer me up, normally they will give me a kiss or just say sorry to me.
I was never spanked as a kid hence I don't believe in that. I do have a rotan hanging in the house as a "warning", but never used it hahahah
i love the colourful balloon sticks, haha!
i spank keira when i get really really angry with her. unfortunately it is less about discipline and more about me losing my temper, so i keep on telling myself have to find better ways to discipline her...
discipline without rotan..
hahaha....i really like your cousin sister's colorful rotan ! I think I must collect some so the kids will got to choose their own color to be punished!
I normally wave the cane as a warning. The kids are afraid. But never really spank them with it unless they are really really naughty and need to be punished.
Bad is, i don't have the patience just like my dad. He always use pyschology methods. I can't because I'm just like a volcano....got heated up real fast. haha
Of course got lah... tarak dengar my cakap, den I ask him to cakap to the rotan loh! So susah mau ajar! Spank lah!
I was a sweet a docile child, my dad glare at me I was oredi scared and crying away, but the same cannot be said with my boy... so I rotan! LOL!
i've not enough patience to handle 2 boys at a time, so rotan is my best tool coz it was the only thing my 2 buffalos r afraid off. but i hardly use it by now....
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